First let me just say that Facebook is such a wonderful medium by which to find something to write about.
When I first saw this image a few things happened:
- I laughed because I thought it was a joke meme.
- I realized it wasn’t a joke and actually took a look at the picture.
- I laughed again because this picture is just ridiculous.
This picture was posted by an organization called Mothers Against Violent Sports and for those of you who don’t know what’s going on, the little girl has a picture of Personality Kim Kardashian on her wall and a poster of UFC Bantamweight Champion Rhonda Rousey stuffed into the trash. The caption of the picture is:
“What you violent fiends don’t understand is that these brutish fighters are being looked up to as role models by children. More girls are wanting to be a masculine, monster like Ronda Rousey with man shoulders, instead of working hard to earn a body like Kim Kardashian, who might I say is downright fabulous.
How do you ever expect to find a husband when you can bench press more than they do? And could literally snap at any moment from your anabolic substances and domestically abuse him?”
*side note: not all athletes take anabolic steroids and to me that’s a pretty serious accusation. It could cost someone their career.
So let me break down what exactly is wrong with this meme.
- It’s woman bashing.
I don’t care who you are, I don’t care what your cause or organization is, it is never okay to put another woman down.
Calling Rhonda Rousey a “masculine monster” just because she is an athletic woman is despicable and exalting Kim Kardashian just because she has a more feminine body type (which I agree is fantastic) is just as bad.
Both of these women have made their careers doing what they wanted to do and even though those choices and careers are exponentially different it doesn’t make one better or better suited to be a role model than the other.
I think both of these women, depending on your goals or career path, are great role models. (Yes I think Kim Kardashian is a great role model)
2. It’s basically giving the okay to sexualize children and promote negative body image.
Kim Kardashian has a beautiful body and she is gorgeous but that is HER body. So a young girl who sees her on T.V. and wants to be like her and look like her might go to extreme lengths to do so and that could definitely impact her negatively. Especially if that girl has a completely different body type.
If Kim Kardashian is going to be a role model (and she is) it shouldn’t be to have her body and her face. Kim is the best version of herself, the version that makes her happy, that’s what makes her a role model and that’s what girls should imitate. Being happy with themselves and their bodies.
Kim also dresses in a way that is appropriate for a women her age and her career. For a 13 year old girl in middle school, wearing nothing but a trash bag and heels ain’t gonna fly.
3. It’s not okay to be a masculine female.
Okay so I suppose Venus and Serena Williams are just chopped liver then, huh?
Rhonda Rousey is a scary and intimidating woman, and for good reason. But her muscles do not make her less of a woman. She is powerful and beautiful and she commands attention, and as a woman there are worse things that you can be.
There is nothing wrong with being a woman and being masculine or having muscles. I have an aunt who can benchpress more than most of the men in our family and she is gorgeous.
Having muscles like Rhonda Rousey, btw, would make men think twice before following you down a dark alley. I’m just saying.
4. You can’t be strong and sexy
Yeah. Enough said. (mic drop)
5. You need a husband to be successful.
This is the biggest thing I think is wrong with this picture. Not really the picture as much as the caption, let’s revisit that shall we?
“How do you ever expect to find a husband when you can bench press more than they do?”
Young girls who need role models shouldn’t even be looking for husbands! And even if they are, it should be because they want to not because they need one, to be successful or otherwise.
I know many successful women who don’t have, need or want husbands.
Role models should encourage young girl (or guys, I don’t judge) to do what they love and do their best. And shame on anyone who believes otherwise.